How to Get Over Anger. If you handle conflict with anger you are telling yourself something very important. The correction lies in self support.
ANGER: How to Get Over Anger.
This article goes beyond anger management, which I feel does not work, to the root cause of anger, which spirit has taught me is self abandonment.
When you have excellent self esteem you feel worthy enough to listen to yourself, then support your needs with action. This allows you to simply communicate your needs in a non confrontational, assertive way when in a conflicting situation with another.
When you feel worthy you support yourself and your needs rather than looking to others to do this for you. This is self empowerment.
Read on…
A few years ago I was reunited with a second cousin. Her father and my mother were first cousins.
She had some very powerful lessons to teach me about how to get over anger.
She revealed to me how her father would go into angry rages in the family, become abusive, hit, demean and trash her and her siblings on a regular basis.
When she got married to her wonderful husband, she knew this type of behavior would not be tolerated. She told me she simply made a choice not to be angry or a RAGE-AHOLIC.
Yep. She simply chose not to engage in this behavior.
Could the answer to how to get over anger be simply a behavioral choice? I do not think it this simple. However, it does suggest that there are better, more constructive ways, to represent your needs in a relationship. Read on.
My mother was a rage-aholic too. It is no accident that she was first cousin to a rage-aholic.
Their common antecedents in turn were rage-aholics.
When I’m talking RAGE here I don’t mean your garden variety anger. No. I mean throwing things, getting physical, biting, spitting, throwing furniture, rolling on the floor with knives, call the police kind of rage.
This was the house I was raised in.
So if you think you have a handle on anger and rage, think again. :)
However, my mother realized somewhere in her middle years, that having anger and acting out on it in rage, was a lower vibration. As she began to study metaphysics, and the great works of wisdom from the ages, as she did, she began a self improvement campaign.
She released her anger and the rage that went with it.
So how do we get over anger?
Even I have learned how to get over anger. I ruined my marriage and my last love relationship with anger. I went into rages when I did not know what or how to get what I wanted.
The only coping skill I knew was anger and rage. (Imagine an infant screaming in a crib.)
I was expressing disempowerment. I did not know who I was, nor did I feel entitled to express this in a quiet, powerful way.
Channeled Material from The Ones on How to Get Over Anger
If you have a problem with anger, if you are angry, it is because you did not develop your talents in life, nor support their expression.
Angry people come from people who did not develop a sense of personal security. Their core is damaged.
They never took the time to find out what their gifts are, to develop them, and to live a life of self support and love.
When one knows who they are and is not afraid to stand up for one’s values, opinions and ideas, one does not have to go into a rage to express themselves.
Actually rage is not self expression. It is just the opposite. It is self abandonment.
So next time you feel angry, stop yourself. Think about what the anger says about you supporting yourself.
Where did you NOT support yourself in your life right now?
Once you get the answer and start to support yourself your anger will begin to dissipate.
No one is holding you back but yourself. Begin to support you today and you will find your anger begins to be replaced with positive self expression.
Namaste,
The Ones Channeled through Spirit Medium Laura
Book your private appointment with The Ones through Spirit Medium Laura at www.BookLaura.com
RECOMMENDED FURTHER READING…
[easyazon_infoblock align=”none” identifier=”1892005158″ locale=”US” tag=”spiri033-20″]