MISOGYNY: The Many Ugly Faces of Hating Women. Are you being hurt and/or dominated by a misogynist, a man passively aggressively trying to dominate you from a fear of being rejected or hurt by you?
Of late, I have become increasingly aware of the misogyny in the world, including the type I experienced.
I am of Italian descent. My father, although loving towards me, did offer my male cousin with the family name to take on his business. He did not offer this to me and it bothered me. I found out about it many years later when my cousin told me. I felt betrayed, like my father did not feel I was up to it or could handle it.
That is just a simple example. Misogyny today in Western society is subtle. Very subtle. That is why I have chosen to write about it here.
It can be masked as a the Latin lover, the alpha man, or the over zealous romancer who moves on quickly to sweep his female partner off her feet before she can assess who he is.
Here are some misogynist characteristics:
1. Gift giving. Seems generous on the surface, right? However, in the misogynist’s world giving a gift is like the Mafia. They give you a gift you did not even ask to receive. Now they own you. You will do what they want, when they want it.
2. Had a poor relationship with his mother. Had an abandoning, abusive father. My father did not like his mother. My cousin did not like his mother. Both my father’s father and my cousin’s father were passive men, allowing the woman in their life to have control and dominate and abuse. Misogynists have been abused by a significant woman in their life. To protect themselves from being dominated again from emotionally connected relationships with women they lead with a smoke screen.
3. Comes on very strong in the beginning of the relationship, zeros in on you, makes it happen. Plays a “Knight in Shining Armour,” going to save or protect you. A misogynist believes that women can be bought, then controlled and he knows how to do so.
4. Exciting fun and charismatic.
5. Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde personality. One moment the nice guy. Next moment the evil guy, but still trying to act like the nice guy. Gets your head swimming.
6. Is preoccupied with sex and sexually controlling. Believes if he is a great lover, and you become his when romanced correctly.
7. Male privilege. Wants you to be available when he wants you. Then turns around and totally ignores you when he is not interested in being with you.
8. Has explicit ideas of how a woman should behave such as, “Women should be easy going and agreeable.” I think a “blow up doll,” is a good image of this idea. You should be there when her want you, then go to the shelf when he does not.
9. Creates a romantic roller coaster to control the situation and not get genuinely emotionally involved. Pays attention to you one moment. Next moment disappears. You are not supposed to ask any questions because that would be defined as jealousy by him or that you are too controlling.
10. Must always win. His way or no way. Inflexible. Not willing to negotiate position with his woman. Inflexible. After all he bought you with romance, gifts and sex. Now he should have his privilege to get his way no matter what that way is. One moment in love, next moment out of sight.
11. Is a habitual liar to gain advantage, do what he wants, when he wants and when it is convenient for him.
12. Is nice to others, but treats you badly. Shows no respect.
13, Tells you how to behave. If you are not easy going and agreeable after he romanced, then abandoned you, you are a problem, have an anger problem and need to behave. Never get angry, no matter what he does to you, how he humiliates you, abandons you or betrays you with extramarital affairs, etc.
If you feel you have been experiencing any of these traits with your significant other you probably are with a person who does not really like women, feels superior, sexually privileged, etc.
As I was musing about this in my own life, CNN portrayed a young woman from a Muslim country. Her father had allowed her to pass as a son for her prepubescent years, because she would be free, play sports and have wonderful experiences.
Then she said after puberty she had to live as a woman again. It was horrible to her, the contrast of treatment. One way to live is free. The other way is controlle dominated, and smothered up.
Even today with the current presidential election I watch as many women are unaware of this quality, how hidden it is within the fabric of society. No one is calling it for what it is, except for a few liberal media outlays.
I accidentally happened upon the Facebook page of my male cousin mentioned above. He had a picture of Melania Trump in a bikini on the cover of “Ocean Drive,” magazine.
He and a few of his misogynist friends wrote a few comments about Melania’s photo. I will attempt to summarize. They expressed the attitude that they would rather Melania in the White House rather than transgender Michelle Obama or ugly Hillary.
Well, I have said enough politically incorrect stuff for today.
Suffice it to say, I am a very strong woman, highly spirited and appreciate men who are collaborative, rather than misogynistic. This type of man, one who respects women, are secure in their manhood, were raised by fair and strong women. They express a healthy psyche.
The misogynist is secretly fearful of the power of women. Perhaps their mothers rejected them, over dominated them, abused them in various ways.
Over time, as socioeconomic conditions continue to require women work to support themselves, their household and even do front line combat in the military, men in the misogynist role are going to evolve backwards to extinction like a dinosaur.
Here is one article on misogyny. Go HERE. I am certain there are many. I have used my own life and other research to construct this article.
Are you being hurt and/or dominated by a misogynist, a man passively aggressively trying to dominate you before you can hurt him?
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