Healing Through Mediumship – A Story

I became very interested in mediumship when my mother was readying for her transition. I was a “natural medium” before, having had regular access to my spiritual guides for years. But the thought of actually bringing in this type of highly specific, evidential information from a deceased loved one in spirit seemed remote to me at best.

However, as my mother readied for departure, the understanding of this skill became more important. I was determined to open that “gate” through which discernment would be possible.

On this path, I was asked to do discernment for a friend who had lost her mother. I used my skills of connecting and without any training brought through information about this mother I would have no way of knowing. She had lost a child in miscarriage; she had lost an uncle when he was just a boy. Both these souls came through with names and details about themselves.

I was a little taken aback, however, since it was a friend I decided to share what came through, feeling this a “safe” place to share mistakes. The information was verified as accurate! I was shocked. Mediumship was possible and I was doing it.

I then asked spirit why share such obscure information about my friend’s mother, rather than some broader, well-known facts? I was told that spirit wanted to offer the obscure to provide validation in a succinct fashion. Why offer obvious information when the obscure would more clearly offer proof?

Since then I have studied to refine these skills and begun to work with clients.

Some Souls Easier to Bring In Than Others

One of the most important things I have learned is that some souls are easier to bring in than others. During the work I was led to discover that if the soul who transitioned was less spiritually oriented on earth, this soul was more difficult to bring through after they transitioned. Those souls who had a regular, non-sectarian spiritual practice were the easiest to bring through. It seems their energy was more open and easier to grasp.

A beautiful example of this is a discernment I did for a man who had lost his wife. When the discernment began all I knew was that his wife had passed. Here are my notes about that reading. My questions to spirit are italicized. The names were changed to protect privacy.

Who would like to come through first?

Your Father is getting close to passing. Your Mother is still here on earth. Both grandparents paternal and maternal are deceased. You lost a child through abortion. Your wife is here. We will work with your wife.

Physical description of your wife?

I see long hair, a happy expression on her face. A tropical parrot is over her head and a monkey by her side. Another monkey appears. His wife (name Lena) starts talking to me and says she had brown hair, straight to slightly wavy. Her body was short, under 5’5”. Slender. Pretty with dark eyes. His wife continues, “This is me. Caramel eyes and hair.”

I asked her if she liked animals, wondering at the appearance of the animals when she first came before me. She says, “Yes I did, I loved animals very much. All kinds. Here on the other side I take care of animals at times. This was my life’s work on earth. I worked with animals. I loved them so much.”

I asked her if she had a message for her husband, Charles. “Dear Charles I do miss you but you must understand that this was all supposed to be. This is not a fluke or a mistake. This is the way we planned it for this lifetime. You have much to learn from this. The first lesson is how to be whole without me. I was a magical force, yes, in your life but I was only a crutch. Now it is time for you to release some of this and move on. Do not forget me. Just simply love me.

Love me in all the things that you see that remind you of me. And know I still am alive and with you. I have not left and I am fine, whole, healthy and quite happy. Now it is time for you to be happy. Today is the first day of this new beginning my dear love. The first day.”

His wife continues, “I want you to promise me to believe and to take an oath today to be happy like I am, for I am now very happy.

Yes it was not easy leaving earth so early like I did. But believe me when I tell you this the spiritual world is quite beautiful and satisfying. I did not go to a bad place. I went to heaven. You know what I mean. You know that I know it is not exactly heaven but it is so beautiful here and I have this work, which I can do here.

I care for animals that have passed and are without guides or help. I also assist animals on earth that are suffering. I come in and offer them healing and make them feel safe. It is a wonderful work.”

By this time, Charles was crying heavily, overcome by the clarity of the messages and the relevant accuracy of them. Indeed his wife was a magical force in his life, being the spiritual one in the relationship, leading him forward on earth on this path. As well, she was an animal rights activist on earth, a vegetarian, and a spiritual healer.

Cause of death?

His wife continues through me, “It was my heart. It was my heart. It did not function well. I was ill for a long time and then finally it did not function at all. I was not suffering for long, though. It was easy to pass. I was not in pain. Even if you think I was Charles I was not. Because I had this idea that I could transition easily and I let go. It is only when you hang to onto earth that the transitions are difficult. But if you are ready to go and let go then it is painless. I was ready because I was a spiritual person and had belief that there was more. And there is more, my dear darling.”

It was confirmed that she died of congestive heart failure. She had heart problems for many years and then finally it gave out.

Do you have a special message for your husband?

“Yes I want to tell him that I love him of course. But that he should now start to make a life for himself, that all of this was planned. I came to earth with this makeup to die like this and offer you the chance to grow. You see when you have a loss like this so young the partner has to deal with it and learn about spiritual subjects. You would not have this growth otherwise. My passing was planned so you would realize while still physical and conscious of your physical world the spiritual world exists. It is sort of like seeing a ghost when you do not believe in ghosts. You were and are being forced to see that I still exist and that you did not have a loss. I still exist my dear husband. I am healthy now and happy. I love you very much. You have lost nothing. I am here sitting in this room today with you. Hello.”

This reading provides important information for all that read it. Firstly, it is important to know that those that have transitioned usually leave the physical easily when they let go. There is no pain in the actual passing at death. There is pain in illness and holding on, but the actual act of letting go and transitioning is a freeing almost of the limitations of the physical.

Secondly, it is important to us who remain behind to not hold on in grief over those that have left. They do not want this for us. They need to transition to begin their new lives in the spiritual world. We need to let go to continue our growth here in the physical. We are here for a reason and it is not to grieve forever over a deceased loved one. This is not constructive.

Thirdly, each situation is planned for a reason. We come to earth with a life plan. It is important to live that plan. Our death is planned, as is our birth. So when your loved one transitions before you, it was planned, perhaps for your growth or some other reason. Acceptance of what happens on earth is important so that our continued growth and evolvement can occur. If you resist these planned events you remain stuck and do not grow. So acceptance of transition is key to healing and growth. Resistance provides no one any help.

Other Characteristics of Connection

There are other characteristics, which determine connection with the Other Side. When a medium does a reading an energetic link must be set up between the sitter (person receiving the discernment) first. If the sitter is closed off this connection could be weak or not made at all. “Closed off” means this person is more centered in their ego existence on earth, survival issues and less on spiritual matters. They might not even believe in the spiritual realm. This can be overcome but does make it more difficult to set the link with the other side.

As I have developed techniques to do readings it has become easier for me to pick up all souls that have transitioned. The key is to relax the sitter and create an energetic link between this person and myself. Using this most souls are able to make at least a minor appearance.

Another Discovery
One last discovery I have made which highly improved my communications with the Other Side is to realize that the souls that appear come in through love. They are living, loving relations, not inanimate objects to be examined. As I relaxed and opened up more to a conversation and less to a series of pointed queries the discernments became more and more fluid and revealing.

Dreams

It is possible to have direct conversations with your loved ones through your dreams. If you ask in prayer before you go to bed to receive communications from your loved ones, you will find over time this channel to hear from them can be developed. Each soul has a level of skill in making this connection, so it is not infallible. However, if you ask for communication you have a greater chance of receiving it. Dreams from spirit are usually extremely vivid. When you have one you will not ignore or forget it. I have had a number of dreams from my mother. These dreams were three-dimensional and usually woke me up.

Healing Through Discernment

I believe one of the most healing things a human being can know is that we do not die. We just change form. Learning this through the evidential discernment of mediumship, we are freed from the ego’s fear of annihilation.

Fear is the most crippling of all human emotions. Without fear all things are possible, we can start living more fully, taking greater risks and fulfilling our passion. Make the most of your time here.