Have you ever gone through a divorce or break up so horrendous, you thought you would die from the pain? I have. Of course, I am Italian, so a little bit dramatic, but really I have.
Mine started about two and a half years ago; however, the relationship was ending two years before it actually did. So I guess I have been in “divorce mode” for four and a half years.
Recently I realized after years of prayer, healing, therapy and a whirlwind of shamanic shimmying, I think I am finally clear.
It happened like this. A friend and I decided for fun we would light a candle as a symbol to attract new love into our respective lives. Our candles finished the week before the full moon. That Saturday night, on the night of the full moon, I was going out to meet some friends to dance, including a man I knew casually.
This new man and I clicked. As we left the night club together I felt happy.
Approaching the night club was the “EX” with his girlfriend, the one he had started dating before we even broke up, the one he had tortured me with for two years as he told me he would return into my life but never did. There HE was.
There was something oddly completing about that moment, so many innuendos, too many to mention here. It was as if Cupid’s arrow was re-calibrated in my heart away from my EX to the new man by my side.
We said, “Hello,” to each other. I was a little upset, but then before the evening was over the new man was so much fun I forgot all about the EX.
The EX did try to contact me again right after this to “be friends.” Yeah, right. I set him straight.
Here are a few ideas to get over your Ex and find someone new.
- Face the truth. One of the final things I did to get over losing my boyfriend was face the fact he liked his new girlfriend. This was hard for me to do because he kept calling me wanting surreptitious meetings behind his girlfriend’s back. I interpreted this to mean he was not happy with his girlfriend, which he said. Actually after going up to Facebook and fiercely facing pictures publicly taken of him with her, I realized the truth. He wanted to have a secret affair behind his girlfriend’s back because it was FUN! Oh, dear, I had been lied to.
- The relationship was not destiny. I look back on that lost “love of my life.” It was uncanny how events happened to drive him closer to his current girlfriend coincidentally making that connection irresistible for him. He even found a renter for his home so he could move into her house just at the perfect time. With me it was just the opposite. Things would happen to keep us apart. Since I do believe in fate, I have to say, this relationship was not meant for me. If it was on my destiny path, I would be with him.
Saturday (Photo credit: Brother O’Mara) - Love yourself. If your ex cheated on you, rejected you or abused you, your self-esteem is in need of repair. Actually, maybe it never was where it should be to begin. To improve your self-esteem do something loving for yourself. If your body is out of shape, hire a personal trainer, join Weight Watchers or simply put yourself on a body management plan. If you do not eat loving meals, take the time to prepare them for yourself. If you have child rearing duties 24X7 see if you can hire a baby sitter every now and then to go out with friends, or create a child sitting cooperative in your neighborhood, where one neighbor does child sitting duty on a rotation basis.
Make your life better and your life will be better.
These are just a few ideas to help ease the pain of loss. It is never easy, but with the right intention you can slowly create a new life for yourself.
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Contact Laura Mendelsohn for a spirit medium session about “how do you get over a breakup” via her website at http://www.lauramendelsohn.com, phone at (954) 465-7338 or email at PsychicMediumLaura@Gmail.com.
