How to Find Love Again. After a break up or loss your emotions can get locked in defensive mode. Here are ways to unblock them.
Ah, here we are! It is Valentine’s Day again! If you do not have a love partner in your life this could be a painful reminder of that.
Me? I embody love every day in every way, so no worries here.
But Sonia, (a client of mine) well, she is a different story. [Name and details changed to protect her privacy.]
Sonia had been trying to find love again after losing her husband in a painful breakup. There had been false seduction, infidelity and callousness all rolled up into one toxic experience for her.
I had gone through a lot of this with her as her psychic, helping to identify each intrigue as it occurred.
As we worked over time it became apparent to me this break up tapped into her own feelings of unworthiness and created in her an inability to trust again.
This breakup up left her broken inside.
Finally I started to see this I had to say something.
The damage she had incurred exhibited as an inability to feel again. She was stuffing her feelings, attempting to go out on dates she found online, at social gatherings and even through introductions from friends.
But she rejected each one, finally calling herself, “the one date wonder!”
I told her she needed healing as she had blocks to finding love again.
It was only by realizing this could she learn to trust again. It was only with trust could she find new love, companionship and joy.
What is your block to finding love?
Is it unworthiness? Maybe you do not feel good enough to be loved by someone, so now you go overboard to please new candidates, repelling them.
Is it fear of getting hurt again? Maybe you gained weight as a way to insulate yourself from attracting opportunities. Maybe you find fault with each new candidate to caste them away.
Maybe it is being emotionally stuck in the last relationship? When you were with your last significant other your personalities were so intertwined it is now difficult to find your single self, ready for a new encounter.
Maybe it is post traumatic stress? Maybe the last relationship ended badly, suddenly or never offered closure, so you remain stuck in a traumatic pattern.
Maybe it is the “not as good as my last partner” syndrome? Maybe you had such a wonderful connection with your last love interest, you compare each new candidate to this person, never finding anyone. [Of course, no one can be your last partner. We are all unique.]
Whatever the reason, the answer is the same.
Being unable to find love is an inside job, not an outside job.
It is not that there is no one suitable for you, that you like or can find to love.
It is that your inner self needs to be unblocked, healed and made open again.
I shared with Sonia some ideas like the following to do this.
- See a therapist and explore this. Perhaps using EMDR therapy in session, used for trauma victims could be helpful or hypnosis. Here is a link to find a therapist if this is how you are guided.
- Self Help. As a dancer I love use of the body to help unblock emotions as a therapeutic tool. Here is a FREE video workshop which shows you how to use movement to unblock your emotions. Go HERE to access.
- Audio program. I wrote this article because I came across this Hemi-sync audio program to heal the heart. This could be your main tool for self healing. Enjoy!
You can benefit from these ideas to help you finally attract love into your life.
This is not impossible to do, but you must be open, ready and able.
Spirit Medium Laura
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