How Low Self Esteem Affects Relationships
If you are in a failing relationship or have trouble getting and staying in happy relationships when you desire to be, you probably are suffering from low self esteem.
Channeled material on how low self esteem affects relationships.
Dear Spirit Guides how does low self esteem affect relationships?
We are here. We are The Ones. We are here to help you understand the value of love for self and how this affects your relationships with all others.
When you love yourself totally, when you see the value in yourself, whatever that is, you will find it will be easier to be authentic, real, balanced and grounded in a relationship.
If things do not go your way in the relationship you will be better able to hear the other person’s point of view to tolerate it, work with it and create something new with it.
In other words you will not be threatened when someone does not say or act the way you desire or want.
When you have satisfied your needs, you do not expect or even need another to meet your needs.
You are meeting them yourself!
So this is why we say that tolerating the needs of others when you have satisfied your needs gets easier and easier when you have fulfilled your own needs.
“How to do this?” you might ask. “How do I become the person I want to become when I am interacting with others?”
“How do I have fair, balanced collaboration rather contamination of another person’s needs stomping over mine?”
We say to let go of trying to please another first. Begin to please yourself.
Ask what you need on a daily basis. Then take steps to give this to yourself.
Do not wait for another to do it for you.
If you think another is there to fulfill your needs you are on the wrong path, the path to destructive interpersonal relationships.
Others cannot do for you what only you can do for yourself.
Only you know yourself. Only you can ask yourself for that which you need.
The more you do this, the more you will get. Because when we give we get. It is The Spiritual Law of Reciprocity.
Love yourself first. Then all other loves will fall into place.
Namaste,
The Ones through Spirit Medium Laura