PAST LIVES: “Settling the Past” book by Fran Steinmark
Here are some notes from Fran Steinmark interview on my radio show 11/23/16. Fran wrote the book, “Settling the Past,” which goes into past life recall as a way of healing from loss of her son and other events going on in her life at that time.
Why did you write your book “Settling the Past?”
To seek justice for the way in which my son died, and to try to come to terms with why he had to die at such a young age. Being semi-autobiographical, the novel is about a woman who seeks past life regression in order to come to terms with her son’s untimely death.
Did you actually experience the regressions that you make mention of in the book?
Yes, I did, but not in the sequence that I wrote about it. I took a little liberty in changing the dates, but for the most part, the characters that arise in those sessions in the book were past lives I have encountered.
How did you first learn about past life regression?
I read “Many Lives Many Masters” by Brian Weiss and immediately identified with the anecdotes depicted in that book. Complex images and thoughts used to come into my mind, seemingly from out of nowhere. I would meet a stranger in the supermarket or at a restaurant and feel deep down that I had met that person before. There was a familiar “knowing” that arose in my gut but not in my brain.
From Brian Weiss’s book, I learned that certain people are meant to come in and out of our lives. In fact, we have probably interacted with them many times (in prior lives) before.
How do you think these past life encounters changed your life?
It is very hard to say because, in my experience, the changes were not drastic; they were subtle and occurred over a period of time. One day, as I was going about my daily routine, I suddenly realized there wasn’t a layer of fear hovering just below the surface of my skin. As a child, I was terrified of my father, and in one of the regressions I was able to release the emotions associated with this specific childhood drama.
Can you describe the process as it related to this particular situation?
My personal childhood experience was painful and horrific: As an adult, I needed to find some logical explanation for why I was meant to endure it. When I was much younger, I blamed myself for the abuse I suffered from my parents, mistakenly believing I deserved it. One of my past life experiences, which I wrote about in the book, brought me back to Ancient Egypt. I was a slave who had killed my cruel, sadistic master. When the slave was set free, all my fears relating to my father were then set free as well.
What else did you learn by having been regressed?
I learned to let go of the fear of dying. Nothingness is a terrifying concept.
To fear that a loved one has disappeared totally into nothing is not just frightening it can be completely paralyzing. Without accepting that there is more to life than what we can comprehend with our limited five senses, some of us find it difficult to keep on going…to continue on with our own life’s journey.
In the book, the mother feels tremendous guilt because of her son’s illness and ultimate death. Additionally, her marriage begins to fall apart. Can this be said of your own personal experience?
Yes and no. I felt helpless in not being able to help my son overcome his illness. When my children came into the world, I wanted their lives to be perfect: completely safe and prosperous. But I have come to realize that each person is on their own distinct journey. My expectations were not meant to be their realities.
Many marriages do find themselves in jeopardy following the loss of a child. In my situation, however, my husband and I provided love, support and strength to each other as well as to our other two children. Such is not the case in the book. The husband and wife do a fair share of blaming each other for their loss. Furthermore, suppressing one’s emotions is never a good coping mechanism.
How did you deal with your grief?
The grief of losing a son – you never get over it. The loss is always with you- There is a tremendous void – although the pain can grow number at times. What helped me tremendously, and this is going to sound quite gruesome, was looking at his body in the coffin. It became evident to me that my son was no longer there: that he had gone elsewhere. But then you have to ask the question: Where is elsewhere? I kept hoping he would communicate with me from where ever that place happened to be.
Have you received messages or communications from your son?
Yes, most definitely. The lights have been turned on and off repeatedly at very precise moments. Mysterious, relevant words have appeared on my computer screen. A special song has started to play out of nowhere. Flowers were sent to me containing a written message that was unique to my relationship with my son. Giant speakers sitting atop a six-foot armoire were moved on the anniversary of his birthday, and there have been many more wonderful incidents. There is no logical explanation for any of these occurrences.
How can the book be purchased?
You can buy the paperback version of “Settling The Past” from Amazon.com; the digital version on Smashwords.com; or go to my website www.fransteinmark.com for the direct links.
Thank You!
Channeling from The Ones in response to the concept of settling the past.
“You are open to the past the present and the future when you realize they are happening at the same time. If you settle the past or change the past you will change the future.
You can change the past by reactivating its memory in your mind, and restating it in a new light.
When you do this everything will shift including your future.
There is no set past, no set future. Everything is constantly in flux.
If you are having problems in your life it is important to relive the past so that you can settle the future.
Namaste
The Ones through Spirit Medium Laura”
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