RELATIONSHIP ADVICE:  Making It Last

On Facebook this morning I happened upon an interesting post.  Someone asked passers by to post why they thought relationships don’t last.  I added the comment, “I feel it is b/c our society does not support the idea of long lasting relationship.  We think jumping to a new one will solve the problem of what is missing in the existing one.  It is a consumer mindset, rather than a constructive one. “

 

I do feel this is so.  Our media and values seem to suggest if it is not working, then shift to a new relationship.  But most of us are not willing to work on the relationship we have. 

If you think about it, losing a relationship is tantamount to losing a loved one to spirit.  It is a death.  How many times have you or I have had to endure this type of loss?  Why not offer effort to an existing relationship to see if it can be improved.

I guarantee you, the relationship you are in now is not a bad one unless the person you are with is abusive.  I have noticed in my work and travels that at times what is defined as abusive can be debatable as well, depending on the expectations of the one receiving the abuse.

RELATIONSHIP ADVICE:  Making It Last.  I was raised in a household where abuse was the norm, by American standards.  If you went to Italy where my parents are from, you might have found this type of loud arguing and even betrayal more the norm. 

Suddenly I realized I was tolerated more abuse from another than the average person because I was used to abuse.  If you are confused about what is abusive you might need to spend some time with a therapist trained in this type of work.

In any event, if your partner is not abusive to you, but rather the spark is gone, or you argue all the time, or s/he has stopped taking care of their body, or the sexual excitement has left, maybe you need to take a deep breath and think before you bolt to a new relationship. 

Why?  Because the new relationship will bring the same issues up.  You carry them with you! 

So if it is easy for you to switch to a new relationship, then ignore this advice.  But if you find leaving difficult, just like losing a loved one to spirit, having to experience grief, loss and all the stress of that, then think about working on your existing relationship.  You might find a new level of peace and respect you never had before.

You might find what true LOVE is all about:  tolerance, patience and acceptance.

Namaste,

Spirit Medium Laura